problems at work
Please Listen–A Universal Plea
“Please listen” “Not now” “I need you to listen” “In a minute” “You are the worst parent in the world, you don’t care” (or throws self on floor in temper) One of my earliest memories is tugging at my mother’s skirt, trying to get her attention. I’m sure my kids have similar memories. Sometimes, it…
Read MoreConflict Management Training & Workshops
Conflict Management training?!? Is it really necessary? It is essential. Why is Conflict Management Training Important? Conflict and disagreements are inevitable. The normal response is to fight, flight or freeze. Although useful if facing a sabre tooth tiger, this evolutionary instinct is not helpful in modern-day life. When we choose fighting, running away or ignoring…
Read MoreProcrastination & Conflict: Don’t Delay Decisions
Ironically, my post on procrastination is actually a month late. I blame the flu… I’ve learned the hard way that dealing with things when they show up instead of when they blow up saves untold hassle. Sometimes we don’t decide based on optimism–things will get better. At other times, we delay deciding due to fear…
Read MoreUnfairness: What to Do?
Unfairness creates negative emotions and is a common cause of unhappiness and conflict. Think about how you feel when someone queue jumps or takes a double helping of your favourite food and leaves none for you or someone gets the job you feel you deserve. Reactions to Unfairness “Hard-wired” in the Brain Researcher Renee Baillargeon…
Read MoreManage annoyances well & avoid major problems
I’ve written before about how random acts of kindness can make a huge difference to others and boost your own happiness. In this blog, I’ll write about how little things can cause big problems. Like a dropped match that lights a wildfire, small irritations, if not addressed, can flare into major confrontations. Manage annoyances well…
Read MoreHow to manage difficult people
I’m often asked how to manage difficult people, especially at this time of year, when we feel obliged to interact with people we normally avoid. If only life was like the story of the Grinch who stole Christmas. via GIPHY With a bit of magic and a different viewpoint, horrible people could be transformed into lovely…
Read MoreHow to Manage Anger Well
How should we manage anger well? Should we let it rip? Or shut it down, show self-control? Speak up or stay silent? Both have advantages and disadvantages. Read here about how to decide whether to speak up or stay silent. If we are prone to angry outbursts, we listen to the reasons why we should…
Read MoreWhy can’t they see the truth?
When we argue, our truth seems so obvious. We ask ourselves “Why can’t they see the truth?” Or we accuse them of lying. This makes us even more determined to prove that we are right. We appeal to friends, colleagues, strangers to agree with us and help us prove the other person wrong. Research and…
Read MoreGet Invoices Paid on Time
So how do you get invoices paid on time? No one likes talking about money, but everyone like having it. . Even if you have full order books, you need money to pay suppliers. Keeping the cash flowing in is essential for all businesses. So what can you do to avoid late or non-payment? As…
Read MoreWhen they won’t talk…
They won’t talk. We keep going in circles…I can’t do anything. As a mediator, I’m often asked ” But what can I do if they won’t talk to me? ” They feel stuck because the other people involved don’t want to talk. It’s frustrating and aggravating. And if you really believe that you can’t do anything,…
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