Archive for July 2017
Solve Disagreements: Lessons from Martial Art
You don’t have to learn a martial art to pick up tips from them on how to solve disagreements…just know some principles and apply them. You don’t need to be coordinated or fit. The discipline and calm will follow as you learn the key principles. Key Principles to Solve Disagreements Like any martial art, there…
Read MoreLeaving Home? Excited but Doubtful?
You’ve been thinking about leaving home for such a long time. Everyone says how excited you must be about the new opportunity. You are, and yet…behind the happy face, you have some worries. Excited but Doubtful You don’t want to say anything to your parents because your mum is already sure that you will starve…
Read MoreSaying No Nicely: Setting Boundaries
Mediators often describe themselves as breaking down walls and building bridges, and “Getting Past No“. So why do I think saying no is important? Well, it because one of the most common causes of conflict is unclear boundaries. Another is broken promises or unfulfilled expectations. Many of these situations would not have occurred if people…
Read MoreWhat kind of animal are you when you say no?
Evolution has hardwired us to react to challenge in three instinctive ways: fight flight or freeze. In other words, we get mad, run away or ignore issues. When you have to say no, if we aren’t ready, this instinct will kick in and we default back to one of these three responses. We know beforehand…
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